Golden Nuggets: Coaching 101

What Was Taken, What Remains It didn’t begin with love, but with wounds recognizing themselves. She was hunger—soft, enduring, still searching for a mother in every open hand. He was control—shaped by absence, learning early that power feels safer than pain. They met like echoes. She gave more when things fell apart. He took more when she did. A quiet unraveling—money withheld, truth bent, hope stretched thin until it almost disappeared. And when everything broke, he reached

When TMS is felt by your healer, massage therapist, reiki practitioner etc…. TMS stands for Tension Myositis Syndrome. TMS is a condition where emotional stress and psychological tension cause physical pain in muscles, tendons, or joints Commonly affects back, neck, shoulders, arms, or hands, but can show up anywhere, including fingers, which can present during reflexology This is something I watch for closely while I’m stretching a clients legs or arms… or especially the fin

The story of Bruiser and Sally did not begin gently—it began with wounds. He was a covert malignant narcissist. She was a child of neglect who grew into an empath, searching for a kind of love she had never truly known. What Sally longed for most was her mother’s love, and she went out into the world trying to find it. Instead, she kept finding people who reflected that same absence. Bruiser, though she didn’t yet understand it, needed someone to control and diminish. They we

Dear Dezi, I remember you mentioning fawning in one of our group sessions, and I’ve been thinking about it a lot. I notice I do this—especially around my husband. He’s… a bit much, and I find it easier to just not be like him. What I mean is I try to be opposite. He’s extracts so much attention, especially around others. Is that healthy, or should I be making waves? —T.B. in Cruces *** Hey girl, I’m really glad you wrote in. This is such an honest question—and a really impor

While this is not a pleasant subject , I wanted to address a text I received from a mom here in town asking what I thought about martial arts instructors using their platform to prey on students—both men and women. I wouldn’t say I’m an expert on the subject, but I’ve experienced enough to have at least a bit of an opinion. I did find some things out too late, but knowing what I know now, I can see common patterns. Here’s what I can share on the subject: As a kid, I thought m

Many of us grew up in emotional chaos and can't understand why we feel "off" or wrong when life is calm. Why is it strangely uncomfortable when life slows down? If this happens to you, you are not alone. When our nervous system has been conditioned from a young age to EXPECT stress, peace can feel unfamiliar. Healing isn't just about changing your thoughts, it's about teaching your body that calm is SAFE. You deserve to feel secure. The next time you notice calm feeling stra