Golden Nuggets: Soul Victories

I sat in that chair believing I was the problem. Too emotional. Too heavy. Too broken to be loved right. That’s what they told me—so I carried it like truth. Until one day he put the pen down. No notes. No distance. Just eyes on mine. “Listen carefully,” he said. “You are one of the mostwell-adjusted women I’ve ever met.” I almost laughed—because how could that be when my life felt like it was falling apart? Then he said it— “Your life would be incredible if you removed the

It comes as a “joke,” a quiet little cut— words dressed in laughter that never feel like love. But I see it now: the pattern, the pull, the need for a reaction that was never mine to carry. This was never about my body, never about my worth— only a reflection of something unhealed in you . So I choose stillness. I choose distance. I choose not to shrink to make you comfortable. I am not your wound. I am the healing. And I will not become small again. dg Poems

Some of us grew up in noise— not just loud rooms, but loud emotions. Chaos was normal. Tension was home. So when life gets quiet…we don’t relax— we look around for what’s about to go wrong. Why does peace feel uncomfortable? Why does calm feel… off? Because a nervous system raised on survival doesn’t recognize safety right away. It expects the storm. It waits for the drop. It confuses stillness with danger. But hear this— Nothing is wrong. That feeling? It’s not failure. It’s

You'll know you're healing when: Laughing flows more easily Sleeping comes peacefully You decorate your space how YOU want to Decisions come without fear You smile when looking in the mirror These moments are not small. They are the return of your life. On average a breakup takes about 6-7 weeks. Its 3-6 YEARS if the relationship was toxic. (sigh) Dezi-